Who Needs Attachment Work?

Do any of these describe you?

-Difficult to trust others love you enough to stick around

-Skeptical of people being too nice and gravitate towards those more aloof

-Takes on the majority responsibility of maintaining relationships

How about any of these?

-Enjoy being pursued but find it difficult to reciprocate interest

-Irritated by people with too many expectations or requests

-Prefers to let time and space resolve a conflict rather than engage the conflict

If you resonate with the first 3, you’re probably familiar with anxiety in relationships. The more you like the other person, the worse your anxiety gets.

If you’re more of the bottom 3, it’s likely you’re more distant in relationships. You can really like a person and still find yourself scrambling to get away from them.

You might recognize that you are a little bit of both even within the same relationship. You may notice that when the other person seemed needier than usual, you were irritated and impatient with them. But when they wanted space from you, you were clingier and more nervous than usual.

The first 3 describe an Anxious Attachment Style. The bottom 3 describe an Avoidant Attachment Style. A mix of both is a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style. Neither is worse or better than another and all of these Styles (we call them “Insecure Attachment Styles” as a group) can change.

My practice revolves around helping you master your Attachment Style by shifting you from Insecure Attachment to Secure Attachment.

A person who is Securely Attached is…

-Confident

-Interdependent (rather than ultra-independent or way too dependent, an interdependent person is able to mix and mingle, intertwining their life with another)

-Emotionally available and emotionally regulated

-Uses assertive communication (leave passive, aggressive, or passive-aggressive habits behind)

-An attractive, safe base for intimate relationships

I am going to help you clearly understand where your patterns came from, how they manifest, and show you how to apply solutions in a practical and transformational way. You will be able to manage yourself and relationships better as a Securely Attached person.

Before booking a call, whether it’s in a package or just one session, you will need to complete the 1-on-1 Interest From.

Pricing

  • 12 Sessions paid in one payment is $1,315.

    12 Sessions split in 4 equal payments is a total of $1,680.
    ($420 paid every third session).

    Our first session is 80 minutes and the sessions following are 60 minutes.

  • $125

    45-minutes

FAQs

Do you accept insurance?

I do not bill to insurance companies, but if you have a payment card that your employer has issued that allows you to pay for coaching services, you are welcome to use that card information.

Are sessions in-person or virtual?

All sessions are on Zoom or on the phone. You select your method when you schedule your sessions.

Is there homework?

Yes, you get homework every session as it relates to the specific issue we are targeting. In other words, there is not a set homework schedule for my clients. The homework is individualized to fit your personal needs.

What is the difference between coaching and therapy?

Coaching helps you get to a new place. Therapy helps you understand how you got here. I am a licensed therapist and a certified coach, trained and experienced in both areas. I adjust the strategy and goals of our sessions based on what you need.

What if I need more than 12 sessions?

Most of my clients are at a great place by the end of their package and are ready to go on and live their life, but sometimes there is simply more to be done. We can and should continue our work together if you are progressing but not at your ideal by the time we hit the twelfth session. We will directly discuss how your work is going along the way so you will have clear expectations of your trajectory.

What if I need less than 12 sessions?

I will refund you all unused sessions.

New to this?

If you’re not sure what all this Attachment stuff is or how it may relate to what you’re experiencing, check out this podcast episode “Attachment 101” from my podcast Boundaries and Grace.